2016 was the year of learning new things about myself and others. I graduated high school, realized the characteristics of a true friend, began my freshman year of college, and became someone I am really proud to be. This past year was a whirlwind, but I totally conquered it. It doesn't mean 2016 didn't have its moments, because trust me, it did. However, I finally realized that the most important part of growing up is taking advantage of every opportunity to shape yourself into the best "you" that you can be, despite the challenges that are thrown your way. After much reflection, I've created a list of 5 things that I learned to let go of in the upcoming year.
Long pity parties
I am the queen of pity parties. Sometimes they are days long. I used to spend so much time focusing on one little thing that went wrong that I would oftentimes miss out on some pretty great moments. I finally realized I needed to let things go when my mom said, "Molly, is this going to matter in a week? How about a month? A year?" My answer was always no. The events that consumed me in that moment would mean nothing when I focused on the big picture of the life that God has planned for me. Throwing myself a 3-day pity party only made me miss out on the possible joy that was available to me. Life is just too short for that.
The number on the scale
2016 was the beginning of my discovery that working out wasn't just to lose weight. The beautiful benefits that come with training your body are more than a number that is displayed on a plastic square resting on your bathroom floor. With working out comes infinite smiles and body positivity. When I discovered a workout class that I loved called [solidcore] (check it out here) there was no stopping me. In 2017, I'm going to stop checking that dreadful scale, and remind myself to get strong, not skinny.
Social media stress
This year I learned that social media can be a dangerous place where many people feel it is okay to be outwardly hurtful towards one another. It's a scary thing. I witnessed others feeling as if they needed to "put someone in their place" whenever someone's beliefs differed from their own. It often overwhelmed me. I would become so consumed with always tip-toeing around those who I knew were okay with commenting unkind things while hiding behind an iPhone or a computer. I'm leaving that worry behind this year, and choosing to pay more attention to the great things that come from the world of social media.
I spent much of the beginning of 2016 with inconsistent people. I wanted so badly to save some of my relationships in my life, but no matter what I did, I felt as if it wasn't enough . When I love, I love hard. I began to believe that this was a bad thing because I thought I'd never find friends who cared as much as I did, and as a result, I lowered my standards. I spent so much energy being let down by people who were there for me one day and then absent the next. Allow 2017 to be the year that you love yourself enough to let those people go. God will place the right people in your life at the exact time that they need to be there.
A Negative Attitude
It is easy to feel as if you will never recover when facing certain difficult situations. Oftentimes it is as if the world is crashing down and there's nothing you can do about it. Here's the good news. You have all the power when it comes to how you overcome these trials. You are in charge of your own attitude. My eyes were opened to this idea when one of my peers saw that I was in the worst mood. She looked me in they eye and said, "Don't forget to smile today!" I realized that sometimes forcing positive thoughts was the key to happier days. Not every single day is going to be your best, but there's always something to be thankful for.